Friday, November 27, 2009

No Reverse

From Twerski's Happiness and the Human Spirit:

One of my patients taught me a great lesson in what it means to be a spiritual person. On the day she was scheduled for a consultation, I happened to be in a bad mood. I had just bought an automobile, fully loaded, but the cruise control was not accurate, fluctuating five miles per hour from where I set it. I was going to have to take it back to the dealer for an adjustment, which would cost me half a day.

Nora arrived for her appointment ecstatic and bubbling with happiness. She was eight months sober and beginning to reap some of the rewards for her sobriety. Her son was going to school all day, and she had found a full-time job, albeit at minimum wage. She had also found a suitable, inexpensive apartment for herself and her child. She thought she might even be able to save enough money to get her car fixed.

"What's wrong with your car?" I asked.

"There's no reverse," she said. "The reverse gear is broken."

"How can you drive without a reverse gear?" I asked.

"Oh, you have to plan things out," she said, "like how to park so you can get out without backing up. But I must remember that some people don't have a car."

Nora taught me that happiness is not having the most but needing the least.